This is a guest post written by Neith and cross posted on Neith.net. Dharmaruci graciously invited me along with Lynn Hayes as guest bloggers while he is off on vacation having a grand time.As a woman and an astrologer, I’m interested in exploring the elements in the natal chart showing us the type of man we are attracted to and Mars is the starting place in a woman’s chart. Because I’m essentially a heterosexual female, I’m working from that point of view because I could only guess at how this works in the chart of those drawn to their own sex.
How Mars operates in the chart can give us clues into understanding the type of man we are drawn to. The sign and aspects to Mars all factor in. I’m going to use my own chart as an example partly because it’s the chart I’m most familiar with and because Mars is my chart ruler. My Mars falls in Scorpio, one of the signs he rules (the other being Aries) and is conjunct my Ascendant and Mercury in Scorpio. Pluto, the other ruler of Scorpio, squares Mars and Uranus is inconjunct to him. What this says to me about the archetype most attractive to me is I find dark, brooding sorts with strong features and magnetic eyes (the classic Scorpio look) appealing. The Mercury and Uranus aspects to Mars point to intelligence and an independent attitude.
The sign on the cusp of the seventh house impacts the archetype represented by Mars too because it is always the complement of the Ascendant. In my chart Taurus rules my seventh house so we can add an Earthy element to the picture as in well grounded or someone who enjoys working with his hands and likes the simple life.
So the picture emerging is of a man who has a strong physical presence, operates independently, likes being out-of-doors close to Nature, has a sharp mind and is comfortable dealing with strong minded women. Now I’m married to a man with Aries Sun, Moon and Rising with Mars in Scorpio in his eighth house and whose Sun is square to Uranus. He has worked as a cowboy, farmed for a living and currently works as a carpenter. Even though he has a sharp mind he prefers to come across as down to earth and practical rather than intellectual and he’s damn independent!! He’s dark haired with strong features too.
As one who married in her early forties for the first time, I was rather taken aback when I realized how well my husband fit into my archetypal profile. It does demonstrate the power of the archetype and how when we run smack into someone who fits it well, we can find our lives forever changed. Of course, Pluto was also in the process of transiting my Juno in Scorpio in the 12th house at the time I starting dating him (Juno is often referred to as the “marriage” asteroid) . . . but that’s another story!
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This is a photo of Sean Connery as James Bond in about 1965. Sean Connery has Scorpio on the Midheaven and many of his movie roles were Scorpio types and he presents the classic tall, dark and deadly archetype. I have always enjoyed watching him in whatever role he's playing on screen.
6 comments:
But a majority of women are attracted to tall, dark-haired, independent men.
You don't see many dating profiles saying: "I'm looking for a short, blonde man whose very dependent."
Neith-
You've got me looking at my own chart in a new way! This may explain my one marriage!
I'm Scorpio also. My Mars is in Sag, 4th house, trines Pluto in Leo 12th house, sextile Nept in 2nd house. If I remember correctly, my ex had Pluto in Leo conjunct Asc.
He definitely was that dark, handsome, brooding type. The brooding became more apparent into the marriage. He battled depression and substance abuse, and has recovered. We've remained friends, and been good co-parents to our son. I think our marriage was most successful during all the time we did not live together!
(Is there a name for that little triangle made by a trine and 2 sextiles?)
As for Sean Connery: A decade or two ago a popular magazine named him as the sexiest man alive. Until he dies, I think he still is! And I love to watch him all the time, especially since Bond. And there's never been another actor to match him as Bond.
-Anonymous in NH
I also have Mars in Scorpio but mine is conjunct the IC and in perfect opposition to Venus in Taurus on the MC.
I have always preferred the blond types who are smaller framed. Nobody likes a dependent person, do they? I don't find the Sean Connery types attractive at all.
My husband is taller than me but we can wear the same size of clothes and has long blonde hair (a big+++!). Plus he is a computer programmer which I guess fits my Aquarius 7th house.
But a majority of women are attracted to tall, dark-haired, independent men.
You don't see many dating profiles saying: "I'm looking for a short, blonde man whose very dependent."
LOL!! Yes, from the physical types represented on romance novel covers, T&D men are favored. But there is a world of difference between someone who has a ton of physical appeal and someone we can live with day to day . . . :-) Astrology can be very helpful when it comes to sorting out that sort of thing.
I'm Scorpio also. My Mars is in Sag, 4th house, trines Pluto in Leo 12th house, sextile Nept in 2nd house. If I remember correctly, my ex had Pluto in Leo conjunct Asc.
Yes, I have to agree! A man with Pluto in Leo conjunct ASC does sound like the type described by your Fiery Mars/Pluto and it's possible the Mars/Neptune could be someone with substance abuse issues. Thankfully you both were able to allow the relationship to evolve to a saner place. Good example of the Scorpio/Pluto ability to transmute and transform!
(Is there a name for that little triangle made by a trine and 2 sextiles?)
It's one of the Lesser Triangles but I couldn't find a specific name for it. Nice little pattern encouraging creativity though.
Yes, I will watch any movie with Sean Connery. He's a consummate professional and has great screen presence.
I have always preferred the blond types who are smaller framed. Nobody likes a dependent person, do they? I don't find the Sean Connery types attractive at all.
My husband is taller than me but we can wear the same size of clothes and has long blonde hair (a big+++!). Plus he is a computer programmer which I guess fits my Aquarius 7th house.
I'm thinking in your case Aquarius on the 7th is the clue to your preference for fair men with a unique physical signature like lovely long blond hair. Perhaps having Venus elevated in relation to your Mars influences your preference for a more slender type too. Very interesting feedback!! Thanks!!
Curiously, I have two Gemini stepdaughters with Pluto on their ASC in Libra who "wear the pants" in their relationships. They have consistently chosen men who are willing to defer to them. It's less about being financially dependant and more about who's the alpha dog.
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